“if I can’t give a woman a g-spot orgasm it’s because she’s shut down” – a guy actually said this to one of my clients in conversation.
Here’s my response:
If a woman isn’t experiencing a certain type of orgasm there can be MANY factors.
ONE of which is trust – female orgasm can take time, patience and trust in the connection, especially when it comes to deeper orgasms. It might be that these women aren’t feeling safe or relaxed enough with this dude – it doesn’t mean they’re “shut down”
Also – the vast majority of pussy owners only experience orgasm on their own, not with a partner (and g-spot orgasm is rarer still).
Nobody can “give” you an orgasm – if it emerges, it’s yours.
You’re not blocked or dysfunctional if your g-spot isn’t awake.
I think there’s SO much damage caused by this blaming/shaming, performance/results-based idea of sexuality.
Please keep empowering yourself in your pleasure, and get good support if you need it ♥